Let us find out more. Sometimes we get confused in a relationship. We seek advice from friends and family and discuss and think about what may be going wrong. We do not pay attention to what our feelings tell us. I have seen instances when couples break- up though their feelings tell them differently. This couple never forgets the ex. Partner because the break-up can never be complete. Had they listened to their feelings instead of focusing on small arguments, they would have realized that they cared for each other and were not ready for break-up.

Have you observed your feelings with your friends? Some of them you like instantly while you never like some of them despite any arguments having taken place. Our subconscious mind tells us about the true character of that person and draws us away. But we do not listen.

Feelings are like radars. They watch over everything and transmit the message. Many persons in an abusive relationship keep hoping that things will improve. Though their feelings tell them that the situation will rather worsen. It is question of hope against reality. Our feelings tell us about the reality. Our desires give us hope. Listen to your feelings and realize your true worth.

Why many of us do not listen to our feelings? This is because we feel unworthy. We feel that others are more intelligent and will give us right advice. We are less capable than others. This causes the problems. Pay attention to what others say but let your feelings be the final judge.

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First off, it is important to ask yourself what you consider a real relationship to be. You need to understand what your needs and desires are from another person, and what you are willing to give them. This way, you can see early in your first dates, if you wish to continue and work towards a future together, and if the other person feels the same of course (both sides count).

Everyone is independent in their own beliefs and ideas about things, so never expect a person to always see things your way. However, it is important to have similar expectations out of a relationship, if you wish to avoid frequent arguments.

Patience is one of the main keys to a healthy relationship. There are times when our partner will not respond in a way in which is pleasing to us, but this does not mean we have to take it so seriously or personally. Always slow down, take a deep breath and think of reasons why your partner may be acting a certain way. Assuming and jumping to conclusions is always an unhealthy step to take because it shows your partner that they are not entitled to act freely and they feel attacked, not to mention it shows that you automatically assume the worst of them. Give your partner some time and let them know that you will be there for them when they are ready to talk. No matter what the situation may be, patience is golden in a relationship, unless your partner never wants to discuss matters with you (which would mean you need counseling or leave the relationship).

Honesty is also at the top of everyone’s list when it comes to what people want out of a relationship. A person needs to know that they can trust their mate because it builds a zone of safety and comfortableness around them. They need to know that they can at least rely on their loving partner to tell them the truth, no matter what. Being human means NOT being perfect, which means we will make mistakes. Now, we should not let that fact lead us to making mistakes we already know are wrong ahead of time. If your partner deliberately makes mistakes or you knowingly make mistakes, it shows that you or your partner lacks respect and care for the other. This is unhealthy for the relationship. What is healthy however, is realizing that the mistake you committed is a mistake. You or your partner need to know that what they did was wrong and they need to feel the sympathy for what they did. Once you or partner have realized this, you can then figure out a way of how you will confess your wrong doings to the other.

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• Give Them Your Undivided Attention
  When your lover wants to talk, put everything else out of your mind and actually be there with them while they are talking. You cannot possibly listen to them if you are thinking about other things you would rather be doing, or have to do.
• Listen To What Is Actually Being Said
  This is especially true if you are in a disagreement. It is very easy to pick out the things in what your partner is saying that you want to hear and can throw back at them. This is not some high school debate class where you score points for winning an argument, this is your sweetheart and your actions here and now will dictate the course of the rest of your life together!
• Look At Them When They Are Talking To You
  Have you ever tried to talk to someone that refused to make eye contact with you? It is very disheartening, especially when you have something important to say. When talking with your sweetie, actually look at them and not around the room.
• Notice The Hidden Emotional Tone Of Your Partner
  Very often, your partner won’t say exactly what is on their mind straight away and it is up to you to draw them out. By looking for their emotional tone, through their body language, voice inflections etc., you will get a very good indicator of what is actually bothering them and also how it is affecting them.
• Acknowledge Your Partner
  A correct acknowledgement can very often completely resolve a dispute in one go. It has a two-fold effect: 1. It tells your partner that you have heard and understand what they are saying and 2. It makes them feel better by releasing some of the emotional baggage that may have built up on the subject. A good rule of thumb when there is a lot of emotional baggage attached to a situation, is to acknowledge them by repeating in your own words what they have just said to you.
• Remain Calm
  If your sweetheart is angry, very often they will lash out at you because you are there and are someone they can take their frustration out on. While this may not be pleasant and the most ideal way to handle a situation, I’m afraid it is part of the job description of being a sweetheart. Realize that it is just a way for your sweetie to vent and resist the urge to get angry back, it will only make things worse.

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Listening is so important if you truly wish to accomplish good communication that will improve your relationship. Communication is not so complicated, once you understand what the right way communicating is, and of course- what methods of communication works for you and your communication best.

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• Caring about each other
• Respect for each other needs
• Communication between each other needs
• Turth with each other on all things big and small
• Commitment to each other and the relationship you have

Caring, Respect, Communication, Truth and Commitment
Simple, but trully needed in a sound relationship!

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Here’s How:

1. Find a time that you and your parents can be comfortable and relaxed together.
2. Make sure no one is focusing on something else while you’re together No paying bills, playing Playstation, making dinner, or watching TV!
3. These first two steps might take some effort and patience. Be persistent.
4. If you just want to shoot the breeze try to bring up something they’re interested in. Ask them questions about their day. Parents love this!
5. If you have something specific you want to talk about let them know exactly what it is. Don’t beat around the bush.
6. If they react badly to what you tell them really listen to them. Don’t react back.
7. Let them finish and don’t interrupt. Ask them to do the same for you.
8. When you feel like you’ve told them what you wanted to thank them for listening. Remain respectful and keep your voice calm even if you’re upset.
9. If you feel like there are still things that need to be talked about set up a time with them to talk about it another day. Don’t continue talking if things have grown tense. Calm down and try to have the talk again at another time.

Tips:

1. Show them respect by focusing your attention on the conversation, looking them in the eyes, and by not being sarcastic or rolling your eyes.
2. Be honest. Honesty builds trust. And life is good when your parents trust you.
3. Stay cool. If you stay calm when things get heated up you’re showing maturity and your parents will respect that.

Love your parents, so that your life will be happy and blissful and you will be protected from the wrath of God.

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Well, so the idea of approaching someone for a date absolutely terrifies you. Or, maybe you’re so nervous about revealing too much about yourself. Then it’s time to conquer that inner voice inside of you and become the dating guru you know you were meant to be.

This is several ways to fell more confident to you :

• First, you need to realize that you’re not alone. Your fears are the same fears just about everyone else in the room also has. One person may be worrying about their weight, the other about their height. Everyone has his or her insecurities. Once you truly realize this, the playing field becomes much easier to approach. The next time you’re out in a public situation, try to figure out each person’s hidden insecurity. If you watch closely you’ll begin to read more about people than just their insecurities.
• You’re more in control of how people view you than you think. Take a good look in the mirror. What do you see? How is your posture? Your smile? Your clothing? Could you use a mini-makeover? Taking time for personal enhancement is a very self-rewarding gesture. Pretty soon it will become natural way of thinking.
• Actions can drown out your nagging voice of self-doubt. When was the last time you did something that terrified you? Shake things up a bit. Try something new at least once a week. The more you’re able to successfully navigate the world around you the more your self-confidence will increase.
• Are you prepared? You can quickly lose self-confidence and end up trying to anticipate defensive maneuvers by being caught unprepared for certain situations. Be on the offense instead. Lose that nagging voice inside and go ahead and try your hand at small talk. It may feel very uncomfortable at first, but hey, riding a bike the first time wasn’t a piece of cake either!

Be Your self and Let’s more confident!!!..

by: Jennifer Good